the rough patches

Lots of worries popped up again today related to this adoption process. When we’re asked about employment and finances, I get nervous. We’re not your typical adoptive family. We qualify, no doubt, but it’s not always clear cut. My husband is a med student, our income is small, and our financial situation will be undergoing… Continue reading the rough patches

sleek pin of gratitude

“‘A nail is driven out by another nail; habit is overcome by habit.’ Erasmus said that, contemporary and admirer of Martin Luther. When I read this thought, I am surprised because I had never known and I am sad for all that would have changed if only I had. … It starts to unfold, light… Continue reading sleek pin of gratitude

truthfulness + committment

Expanding my marriage book library, and after I read this article, an excerpt from Tim Keller’s new book The Meaning of Marriage, I’m pretty sure I’ll need to add it, too. Here’s a tiny bit: Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without… Continue reading truthfulness + committment

holy more than happy

‘What if God didn’t design marriage to be ‘easier’? What is God had an end in mind that went beyond our happiness, our comfort, and our desire to be infatuated and happy as if the world were a perfect place? What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?‘… Continue reading holy more than happy

foster care + attachment

“The most common response to the news that you foster parent is ‘I couldn’t do that, I’d get too attached.’ The answer to that is that in fact, that’s the job — kids need attachments, they need love and care, they need you to get attached to them, and help them attach to you. There’s… Continue reading foster care + attachment

a divine calling

I’m loving pre-marriage counseling. I love the willingness of our pastor and his wife to meet with us and answer our questions and live by example. I love filling out forms, answering questions, and talking about my feelings. And I love the benefits I receive from being reminded of God’s design for marriage and the… Continue reading a divine calling