questions for those adopting

I sometimes feel so deep (too deep?) in the adoption world, I forget that some people haven’t really had a friend or family member adopt. And, this isn’t a personal complaint, but I’ve come to realize some people just don’t know what to ask people in the process of adopting.

We all know what to ask pregnant women…

+ When are you due?
+ How have you been feeling so far?
+ What plans do you have for the nursery?
+ Do you have a name picked out? Will you be telling anyone the name in advance?
+ What are you most excited for?

But it’s not so different with adopting families! Some ideas of what to ask them are…

+ What part of the process are you in?
+ How are you feeling about the process so far?
+ What plans do you have for you kiddo’s room?
+ Will you be changing his/her name? Will you be telling anyone the name in advance?
+ What are you most excited for?
+ What has been most challenging about your adoption?
+ How can I be praying for you?

(And after a chat with a friend last night, I must say this again: Please, oh please, do not tell adopting couples — especially those who you suspect or know have experienced infertility — that you know people who got pregnant right after adopting. Not helpful. I know you want to say it, but please don’t!) 

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